Posts by Special K

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Which Mini-van should I buy?

by confusedjw in

can those of you with mini vans help?

(3 years old, 50,000 miles).

if you have had one would you buy it again?

Update on Me!

by Sunnygal41 in

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some of you may have noticed that i haven't been as busy on the board lately as in the past few months and that is because i finally got a new job!!!!

woohoo!

just in time, i was hired at a local bus company and i now take reservations for local senior citizens for dial a ride service.

Special K

For some reason I don't see your post... the only one that comes up on your screen is shotguns response congratulating you on a new Job.

SO.....CONGRATULATIONS, Sunnygal. Glad you found a job.

sincerely

Special K

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747 CRASH at Halifax International Airport

by Special K in

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a 747 cargo plane crashed off the end of my airport 4 am this morning.

halifax international, nova scotia.. apparently landed and refueled.

briefly got back into the air and then crashed off the south/west end of the runway into a quarry.

Special K

Yes, confirmed that all 7 crew members are dead.

Response by emergency crews was examplary.

3 minutes to get to end of run way. Because of their concern for any survivors they crashed their emergency vehicles through the barriers at the end of the run way to get to the crash site.

Very sad.

Special K

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Birth Announcement

by TrailBlazer04 in

kieran trinity r. was born last night, 10/12/04 weighing in at a svelte 6lbs 11oz.

mom and baby are great...i'm leaving on 10/21 to go out there.

i have pictures..... .

Special K

Congratulations Trailblazer

Little girls.... I never got one of those.

Sugar and spice and all things nice.

I got. hockey, basketball and soccer. Three times.

enjoy your new little girl

Special K

27

Are JWs "Approval Whores"?

by Scully in

during a quiet moment at work the other night, i picked up a back issue of o magazine, one of the current quintessentially authoritative journalistic voices of the modern north american woman.

it was the december 2003 issue, and i was intrigued by the title of the article: "the halo effect" which promised to examine the condition of 'being too good' for one's own good.

the preamble contained the phrase "self-sacrificing" and i was immediately zapped by that standard jw buzz-word and the article's suggestion that being "self-sacrificing" is not all it's cracked up to be.. you can read the article here: stop seeking approval.

Special K

The article had this line in it, which I read after I saw your "clicky-link" , Scully.

Suppose that every morning of this holiday season, you asked yourself what you really, truly wanted to do that day, and then did just that. Would you spend time you don't have buying things you can't afford for people you don't like

When we first started celebrating the art of Christmas giving in 1992. It seemed easy and nice and each year as we got accustomed to the residual J.W. fallout.. then Christmas got better and better.

Now, 12 years later it is starting to feel like this quote above.

It seems like the Christmas list got bigger and longer and you have people you feel obligated to buy for who you don't even really associate with anymore. You just feel obligated. You have (what you feel) is an obligatory visit with each other over the holidays to exchange gifts when you never really see each other over the year at all anymore. You even feel a bit strained over the visit because it just doesn't feel right anymore. .. it feels kind of "forced".

Maybe, this is one of those things I can try to weed out. It really doesn't feel right to me for us to have to do this anymore. I guess this is this "approval whore" stuff rearing its ugly head.

hmm?

Special K

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747 CRASH at Halifax International Airport

by Special K in

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a 747 cargo plane crashed off the end of my airport 4 am this morning.

halifax international, nova scotia.. apparently landed and refueled.

briefly got back into the air and then crashed off the south/west end of the runway into a quarry.

Special K

A 747 Cargo plane crashed off the end of my airport 4 am this morning. Halifax International, Nova Scotia.

Apparently landed and refueled. Briefly got back into the air and then crashed off the south/west end of the runway into a quarry. They were carrying a load of fish and seafood bound to Spain.

It's 7:30 am now and they are still trying to get all the fires out. No word on the 7 crew members.

The airports in and out flights are still closed down.

I hate waking up to this kind of news. It always makes me feel panicky.

Special K

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Dansk Tuesday, reminder

by LittleToe in

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just a wee reminder that it's tuesday.. although we're having a monthly "extra special attempt", some stalwarts are still making the weekly "vibe-send".

just 3.5 hours to go.... to quote mulan:.

here is our weekly reminder to send healing energy to ian.

Special K

Certainly good vibes sent across the Atlantic to you, Ian.

On the wings of a snow white dove, my dear..

with love

Special K

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We stopped by Satan's place. He says "Hi."

by kwintestal in

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at least growing up i was told it was satan's house.

we just made the long cross-canada drive to attend my wife's grandfather's funeral.. my wife has had somewhat strained relations with her parents since she became a jw, 8 years ago, and it seemed that this visit was going to be more of the same.

one of the first things her mom said, was that they were having a mass for the funeral in a church.

Special K

Hi again Kwin

Sounds like you got most of the flack.

It's funny how J.W.'s through their programing change what is natural and normal, like going to a family members funeral into that it should feel "awkward"and wrong. Maybe it's because of that programming that they as J.W's don't think they are going to die? and of course as you mentioned you went in Satan's house. You NASTY boy. LOL

I find it awkward to go to any funeral (most people do). I think your wife is right. It brings a sense of closure.

Interesting that your mom chastised you for talking to your sister.

Sounds like your mom might have had a list waiting to hit you up with when you got back home.

Special K

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We stopped by Satan's place. He says "Hi."

by kwintestal in

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at least growing up i was told it was satan's house.

we just made the long cross-canada drive to attend my wife's grandfather's funeral.. my wife has had somewhat strained relations with her parents since she became a jw, 8 years ago, and it seemed that this visit was going to be more of the same.

one of the first things her mom said, was that they were having a mass for the funeral in a church.

Special K

Hi Kwin

Sounds like this all turned out okay.

I look at the results of all this as a BIG plus for your wife.

Obviously the funeral was far enough away from her home congregation that she didn't get drop in visits from elders etc who would pressure her as to her "not" attending the funeral.

Sounds like she weighed it all out in her own mind with some positive feed back from her husband (you) as to what would really be wrong with attending the funeral in the church.

Kind of a look at the pros for attending,.. respect, love, support of other family..etc.

and she made a good decision based on love and what felt right to her. A big step in freeing the mind from the J.W.'s where decisions are made after forking through all the WT publications and calling several elders.

I remember the first Catholic funeral I went too after exiting the J.W.s' . I too thought it was quite interesting and a bit weird. It was all the standing up and sitting down then standing up and sitting down. Anyways, I wasn't there to worship or be converted but just to support the family and friends of the deceased.

all the best Kwin

Special K

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Bus Stop Blues

by bebu in

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my 13-year old son missed the bus this morning.

and demanded that i drive him to school.

from his point of view, i am doing nothing at all, and only pure selfishness is preventing me from driving him a mile in our van.

Special K

Hi Bebu

you said

I've got an idea. I will tell him that each month, I will drive him 1 time as grace if he misses the bus. He can choose to spend it the first time... or keep it in reserve in case he misses the bus when the weather is lousy (if the weather is REALLY cold and lousy, I'd drive him anyway!). This might set up a framework where he feels a little hope... and where he knows he still makes choices...

This might become a nice ice breaker to get him to talk about the whole late for the bus thing.

Make him up a couple cards. Monopoly size and give them to him but instead of "Get out of Jail Free" put on them "One Free Ride to School" (if you miss the bus).

Hopefully, he has a good sense of humour and will laugh at your cards and might spark a conversation as to what would be a compromise of what he feels/you feel is fair and acceptable to you both.

love

Special K